Mark,

I have a question for Jovius.  I am struggling with the concept of allowing.  When is allowing not just looking the other way and letting people run over others in a hurtful way?  How do you deal with allowing if you have to interact with individuals or family on a daily basis but their actions are not loving or spiritual in nature?  If you correct them, is that not judging?  If you ignore them are you not being judgmental also?  When you are allowing how do you know that you are not just stuffing your feelings.  I am curious what Jovius has to say about this. 

David Berning
Fort Worth, Texas (USA)

[Jovius]

Allowing is simply stepping back and not interfering with the journeys of others.  This does not mean that you cannot interact.  You can participate if you choose to do so.  You have a path as well.  If there is interaction between others that has nothing to do with you, it is in your best interest and theirs not to interfere, but you can express the fact that it hurts you.  You can express how you feel without interfering in their actions, or vocabulary.  You know, you really do know, when it is appropriate to step in and when it is best to back up.  For instance, children need parenting, or you are continually being brought into another’s drama.  You can choose to step away, or you can choose to participate.  You know inside when it is part of your journey, you really do know.  Just ask your heart if you have doubt..