Jovius,

How does one cope when people who you love cannot understand you? They attribute motives to your behavior that just aren't true and nothing you say or do can change their opinion? Why do people see what they want to see instead of seeing what is true?

Susan (Philadelphia, PA)

[Jovius]

Truth is relative.  We will tell you that truth is truth and universally so, but when you are referring to those who choose to see one thing and you are, for instance displaying another, there is obviously a communication breakdown.  You can only create for you.  You are responsible for you and your actions only.  When you are acting from your love and your intuition, that is all that is necessary.  You could simply expect something different from this other person, or you could just remember that what this other person does has nothing to do with you.  Some relationships are simply not in your best interest.  Some relationships you still have something to learn from.  Choose what you want from this one and move towards resolution for you.  Use your love as a barometer.  Realize that the attachment to this relationship and what this person thinks could be just that, an attachment.  Forgive yourself for that which you have created that does not give you joy and wish this other being well.  Use your love; you know what to do.  You cannot ever change another, you can only change you.  Choose, for you already know what to do.  We love you and remember you are love.  You just have to be reminded from time to time..