Pause and observe..

When you reach the place of allowing, you are in a place of being open to what comes and accepting without judgment of those experiences you have attracted.  It is a place of observation.  If you pause you can witness your own experience and behavior within that experience. 

As you notice yourself while unattached to the emotions causing the behavior, it is much easier to observe your impact on others.  What you see is what you mirror to those around you.  It can be easier to understand the attraction when you can see yourself in third person.  It can give you a better understanding of yourself and your relationships. 

Be still, observant and unattached to see the truth within your heart..