Be grateful for those situations in your life that have brought you clarity no matter how painful they might be to experience...

It is the outcome that is so important and enlightening.  For you to see more clearly is ever so powerful and character building.  When experiences come to you and present themselves with confusion, you are just not realizing the importance in your life.  As confusing and sometimes paralyzing situations can be, there is an answer for you in them.  The outcome can be amazing to you, if you look for what you can be grateful for and forgive all else.