[Gary Renard, author of The Disappearance of the Universe, gives a forgiveness exercise and suggests that if we use it (even when we have a lot of trouble meaning it) the exercise will in time "undo" our feelings of being so separate.  He uses the word Christ (meaning God, or all that is), but you don't have to use that word.  If it doesn't fit your belief system, just substitute yourself (I), or someone else's name, in it's place.  So, he suggests that when someone pushes our buttons, makes us angry, whatever, or when we do something we don't like to see in ourselves, that we say something like: 

 

  (Blank)   is/am Christ, pure and innocent...  All is forgiven and released.]