When energy is in conflict, there can be no union..

Union can only come when the energies are of a similar vibration.  When you look to another and can see only what is not in agreement with you, you are creating at an energetic level which will attract to you exactly that.  You will attract those who are what you perceive to be less than you.  You will attract those you can judge easily because you are in judgment. 

But, when you choose to see in those around you, that which perfect and loving, you will attract just that.  You will attract love and perfection. 

Energetically, you can do nothing but attract at the vibration you are yourself..